Have you seen the new movie, I Feel Pretty?
I went with friends to see it last night. Wow. I can not recommended enough that you go watch this movie. My husband wants to see it too - he sees how important it is.
If you haven't seen it, the premise is that Renee doesn't consider herself beautiful. She struggles with self-esteem and confidence. Not approaching the bar to order drinks. Not applying for her dream job. Sure that no one will like her. Then she hits her head - during spin class - and wakes up stunned by herself. She hasn't changed. The actress playing the part admits that she didn't look in that mirror and pretend she was thin, or any different than she actually looks, that she saw herself for who she was and fell in love. You see how different it is for her to interact with people, putting herself out there. The way she wears her clothes, without tugging and adjusting. The way she carries herself. Including applying for and getting the job. I won't say more as not to include spoilers.
Nothing changed except the way she saw herself. Nothing changed except her confidence.
Sounds simple, no?
I've started looking at myself and not seeking out flaws, instead loving the soft tummy, loving the crooked smile, loving every inch of myself. I've started wearing the clothes I like without worrying if the shorts are too short or if my arms are too flabby. I've bought a two piece swim suit - modest because that is my preference - but quirky and not matronly. I don't look at food and think good/bad in terms of what will make me fat, but instead thinking good/bad in terms of health and taste.
I'm weird. A nerdy introvert. A tattooed liberal. An over-thinking overly-cautious careful type. Nice. I try to be thoughtful. I crack myself up sometimes with my goofy hilarity. I paint. I write. I knit. Mostly I mother, and if my kids can't come, I don't want to go. I'm open minded and forgiving.
I am so much more than my weight, my clothing size, my face. I don't have to dress a certain way. I don't owe you a smile.
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